Love vs Luh
This topic has been on my heart for a while. The thought first came in my mind while I was watching Are You the One? on MTV. It was toward the beginning of the show and a guy said he found “LUH” with the girl he was sleeping with. He actually spelled it out L-U-H to make sure we didn’t confuse him with saying L-O-V-E. It made me ask what in the world is LUH? What is the difference between LOVE and LUH? In this blog post I will be breaking down the difference between LOVE and LUH so you can discern which one a person is really trying to offer you.
What is Love?
First things first, we must define and describe the characteristics of LOVE and LUH. I don’t really like the dictionary definition of love because it is too shallow, so I will be going by the bible’s description of love. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 depicts the essence of LOVE perfectly (NKJV and NIV). LOVE suffers long and is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. LOVE never fails. It’s amazing that real LOVE never fails and yet many people have had someone tell them “I love you” and they despise the person now. It makes you wonder if they ever had real LOVE at all or if it was just LUH all along.
What is Luh?
LUH is no where in the bible so I had to go to the trusted urban dictionary. LUH is when someone more than likes a person but doesn’t actually “LOVE” them. I could tell by the context clues that is what LUH means, but seeing the urban dictionary definition just confirmed it. Now that we know what LUH means, if someone were to tell you that they had LUH for you it probably wouldn’t flatter you at all. If anything it would offend you because you wouldn’t want someone having lukewarm feelings for you. Either you LOVE me or you don’t. On the show Are You the One? I was able to see how a relationship based on LUH plays out and it didn’t end well. As I stated earlier, a guy said he found LUH with the girl he was sleeping with. They had a few weeks of bliss sleeping together, however once they found out they were a no match their romance quickly fizzled out. The guy shed a few tears initially and then promptly went back to his player ways, leaving the girl feeling confused and taken advantage of. This has happened to me before too and when I found out that the guy didn’t LOVE me I felt bamboozled. You want to know whether or not a person has LOVE or LUH for you before you give them your mind, heart, body, and soul.
Love vs Luh characteristics:
LOVE
- suffers long
- patient
- kind
- doesn’t dishonor others
- not easily angered
- rejoices with the truth
- always perseveres
- never fails
LUH
- temporary
- impatient
- unmerciful
- behaves rudely
- easily angered
- delights in evil
- convenient
- selfish
Everyone Isn’t Honest
On Are You the One? the guy admitted that he had LUH for the girl and not LOVE, but everyone isn’t as honest as him. In this life if you don’t have some discernment, wisdom, and the Holy Spirit you can easily fall for LUH and think that it is LOVE. People know that LUH doesn’t sound as good as LOVE so sometimes they change the words to sound more flattering. We can even see this in music. There are a lot of songs that say LOVE that should really say LUH. For example Usher’s “Love in This Club” song isn’t talking about a relationship that will endure the tests of time. In high school the song “I Wanna Love You” by Akon had the original lyrics as “I Wanna F word You”. LOVE and the F word couldn’t be further from each other and yet the songwriters just switched the words without thinking twice to get radio play. Don’t just fall for the words that people say but check out their actions too. Someone can tell you all day that they LOVE you by phone call, text, or even writing it in the sky. It is a person’s actions and time that will reveal whether they have LOVE or LUH for you. Maybe even you are guilty of saying ” I LOVE you” to someone and not truly meaning it. From now on be honest with others and most of all be honest with yourself. The lists above can help you discern if you are looking at a person with LOVE or LUH for you. Does your partner leave you when things get rough or can they suffer long? Is your partner forgiving or do they hold grudges? Does your partner honor you or do they act out a lot? Does your partner pressure you to do bad things or do they walk with you in the light? Is your partner only there for you when it is convenient or do they persevere with you through all things? We are living in a world that is becoming more comfortable settling for a LUH relationship. Today decide if you are the type of person who will tolerate LUH from someone. I have made up my mind to choose LOVE all the way!!!