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November 2018

Some Will Say You Failed: Persevering in Every Season

“Trust in the Lord, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness” – Psalm 37:3 NKJV

In life everyone has their own perspective on what failure means. Likewise, everyone has their own view of what success truly is. One day I watched an interview with Priscilla Chan (pediatrician, philanthropist, and wife of Mark Zuckerberg). The interviewer questioned Priscilla on an initiative that her and her husband invested a lot into financially. Priscilla spoke positively about the things they have accomplished with the initiative, however the interviewer mentioned that some would say their efforts were a failure.

Today I want to encourage you to keep going. Sometimes what the world sees as a failure, God sees as a success. Don’t feed into the lies that the positive strides you’re making is insignificant or a waste of effort, money, and time. Some may say you failed, but at least everyone will be able to say you tried! The world needs more people who will step up even if it seems foolish to the majority.

In the interview Priscilla also mentioned that their investments would take years and even decades to see the full benefits. So often people call something a failure prematurely. Practice patience. Just because we put a seed in the ground doesn’t mean a tree is going to spring up over night. It’s easier said than done, but trust in the Lord and continue to do good. Do not despise small beginnings (Zechariah 4:10). Also know that if ever you do fall or “fail” that God can always take our “failures” and turn them around for our good and the good of others.

Devotional Playlist:

It Ain’t Over- Maurette Brown Clark

You Are For Me – Kari Jobe

Way Maker – Sinach

 

 

 

Renew A Steadfast Spirit Within Me

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me” – Psalm 51:10 NKJV

This month the phrase “Steadfast Spirit” has really been standing out to me. Some synonyms for the word steadfast include devoted, dependable, faithful, loyal, and solid. Clearly the word steadfast is so powerful and the thought of having a steadfast spirit is amazing. The key to having a steadfast spirit is intimacy with God and obedience.

So today let’s do a heart check. How devoted are you to God and His will for your life? Are you a dependable servant in the eyes of the Lord? Be transparent with God and ask Him to clean your heart and renew a steadfast spirit within you. When you fall short get back up and try again. The important thing is that we press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:14-15 KJV).

Steadfast Spirit

Devotional Playlist:

God’s On Your Side – Mississippi Mass choir

I’m Available – Rev. Milton Brunson

Better – Jonathan McReynolds

 

Journaling and praying about Future Husband and marriage while single

Some people may think writing qualities you desire in husband or marriage is crazy, but I’ve learned that writing basic standards can be a helpful guide in the spousal selection process. As Christian women we do not have to date around aimlessly. We have the Holy Spirit who leads us, Jesus Christ as our example, and the Word of God as our guide and standard.

Too often Christian women find themselves in the same predicament as the women of the world. We make poor choices and forget that we have the one and only all knowing God on our side. God cares about who we marry because the marriages that God ordains have purpose. God desires godly offspring (Malachi 2:15). God expects the husband and the wife to serve His kingdom and bring glory to His name.

I have pursued relationships by following the way of the world through movies, TV, and music. That path always led me to confusion, unnecessary heartbreak, and regret. But when I surrendered everything to God, He began to show me who I am and shared intimate insight. That includes sharing certain qualities that I should value in a potential husband and marriage. I’m not talking about focusing on only carnal things in our immaturity. I’m talking about journaling that is spirit led that only comes from intimacy with God and His word.

So although I’m sharing this it’s not meant to encourage idolizing marriage, a list, or anything else. As followers of Christ our ultimate purpose is to spread the gospel and live a life that gives glory to God. I am content being single, but the more I seek God the more in my heart I say to myself if and when I do get married I want it to bring glory to Him. That is my desire and God’s desire too.

So after praying, reading the Word, and observing successful marriages (even my own parents over 30 yrs of a great marriage and counting); I journaled about a future husband and marriage. Things the bible states to value and some unique desires personal to me.

Tips:

  • Get Close to God First

Having an intimate relationship with God is so crucial as we navigate our daily lives. As a single person you have more free time to spend with God than a married woman who has to tend to her husband and possibly children. Take advantage of this single season and spend quality time with God. Study the bible and meditate on His words day and night. God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6 NKJV) so be intentional with your time.

  • Know Who You Are

It seems many people spend a lifetime trying to figure out who they really are. As you become closer to God you will also learn more about yourself.  We all have a purpose, and God will show you the best way for you to fulfill yours and use your unique gifts. Knowing your purpose and your own strengths and weaknesses will allow you to better discern what man would be a complementary match for you.

  • Use the Bible as your guide and standard

As Christian women the Bible should be our go to resource for everything including relationships. Take godly characteristics from the Bible and add write them down. What are some qualities that God delights in? For example having a contrite (repentant) heart and a steadfast spirit. Or the fruits of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, longsuffering (patience), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). And while you’re looking into godly characteristics evaluate what areas you can improve in too #charactergoals. No one is perfect but a person who is walking by the Spirit will show some fruit.

  • Be Specific

I was always taught to be specific with my prayers. Ask for whatever you desire in prayer and have faith that it is yours (Mark 11:24 NIV). Even if you don’t get it, it never hurts to ask.  As you become closer to God your desires will match His desires for your life. I can testify to that because in high school I was not desiring a godly man. We tend to want the bad boy more. Then over time as you grow in your spiritual walk you will desire a man who has had a true heart change and mind change. So pay attention to the desires in your heart no matter how small or silly you may think they are. Those desires are more likely to be spirit led.

I Wrote In My Journal Now What?

So now you have written down in some form or fashion what you desire in your future husband/marriage. Now it’s time to wait it out and let God do what He is gonna do. There’s no need to stress about it. Stay encouraged and do not worry about the “How” or the “When”. During this time get to work on building your character. Become the best version of you. Continue your intimate relationship with God and get busy on the assignments God has already given you. Pray for your future husband or marriage if the Spirit leads you to do so. Be patient because God’s timing is not our own, and be flexible because changes in our plans can happen. Regardless I will trust the Lord and surrender my will to His.